{"id":8155,"date":"2025-05-28T23:41:41","date_gmt":"2025-05-28T23:41:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/?p=8155"},"modified":"2025-12-11T00:18:35","modified_gmt":"2025-12-11T00:18:35","slug":"swinging-rookie-mistakes-wish-i-knew-then-what-i-know-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/swinging-rookie-mistakes-wish-i-knew-then-what-i-know-now\/","title":{"rendered":"Swinging Rookie Mistakes: Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"8155\" class=\"elementor elementor-8155\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8f188d8 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"8f188d8\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bb027e9 bg-border e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"bb027e9\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e50d29f main-head e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e50d29f\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4edbeba elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4edbeba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Swinging Rookie Mistakes: Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now<\/h1>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a436bcb main-head e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"a436bcb\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8102b5f elementor-widget-mobile__width-inherit elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8102b5f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">New Swinger Podcast | <a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/swinging-rookie-mistakes-wish-i-knew-then-what-i-know-now\/id1734698162?i=1000697815772\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Apple<\/a> | <a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/episode\/22jIaBR03BPn8Efm58qEQz?si=0054a7f7611c4f8a\" target=\"_blank\" style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Spotify<\/a><\/h5>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce2b002 spotifyplayer elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"ce2b002\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<iframe style=\"border-radius:12px\" data-src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/22jIaBR03BPn8Efm58qEQz?utm_source=generator\" width=\"100%\" height=\"352\" frameBorder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\" allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e65d9ce elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e65d9ce\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>Swinging isn\u2019t all champagne and orgies \u2013 mistakes\u00a0<em data-start=\"49\" data-end=\"55\">will<\/em>\u00a0happen! From NRE chaos to rejection, here\u2019s what we wish we knew before diving in. Buckle up for the lessons, laughs, and juicy confessions!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fb8885b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"fb8885b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">By: <u>Kat Swings<\/u><\/h5>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c6a3eef highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c6a3eef\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d2076c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7d2076c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p data-start=\"68\" data-end=\"363\">Ah, hindsight\u2014the sexiest\u00a0<em data-start=\"164\" data-end=\"169\">and<\/em>\u00a0most savage teacher. If only I had a time machine to whisper in my newbie swinger ear: \u201cStop overthinking and just go to the damn party!\u201d But alas, I had to learn the hard way, and now I\u2019m here to save you from making the same mistakes. Buckle up, because I\u2019m spilling all the things I\u00a0<em data-start=\"466\" data-end=\"472\">wish<\/em>\u00a0I knew before diving into the lifestyle\u2014so you can start swinging smarter, not harder.<\/p><p>Join Kat &amp; Leo as they break down swinger FOMO, peer pressure, rejection, and why aftercare matters \u2013 plus, the mistakes they\u00a0<em data-start=\"124\" data-end=\"130\">wish<\/em>\u00a0they avoided \u2013 in this must-listen episode\u00a0of\u00a0<span style=\"color: #000000; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); letter-spacing: 0px;\">the <\/span><a style=\"background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); letter-spacing: 0px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: bold; color: #000000;\"><span style=\"text-decoration-line: underline;\">Vanilla Swingers podcast<\/span><\/span><\/a><span style=\"color: #000000; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); letter-spacing: 0px;\">.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b19b4eb elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b19b4eb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1080\" height=\"1080\" src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-8157\" alt=\"Vanilla Swingers swinging rookie mistakes\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2.png 1080w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2-430x430.png 430w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/instagram-vanilla-swingers-swinging-rookie-mistakes2-220x220.png 220w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1080px) 100vw, 1080px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c92c4cd highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c92c4cd\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54f740d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"54f740d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">ED is a Real Thing (and It\u2019s Not About You)<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c30a28b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c30a28b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Let\u2019s just rip this Band-Aid off now\u2014erectile dysfunction happens, even in the sexiest of scenarios. Your partner could look like a literal Greek god, the vibes could be immaculate, and yet\u2026 crickets. It\u2019s\u00a0<em data-start=\"831\" data-end=\"836\">not<\/em>\u00a0your fault. Performance anxiety, too many drinks, or just the pressure of the moment can get the best of\u00a0<em data-start=\"942\" data-end=\"950\">anyone<\/em>. Don\u2019t take it personally, and for the love of lube, don\u2019t make it awkward. Just roll with it and enjoy the fun in other ways.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-783ebec highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"783ebec\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d54234f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d54234f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Swinger FOMO is Real\u2014Don\u2019t Let It Rule You<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-97b1327 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"97b1327\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"margin-top: 0px;\">The lifestyle has a way of making you feel like a kid in a candy store. There\u2019s always a\u00a0<em data-start=\"1229\" data-end=\"1237\">hotter<\/em>\u00a0couple, a\u00a0<em data-start=\"1248\" data-end=\"1256\">better<\/em>\u00a0party, a\u00a0<em data-start=\"1266\" data-end=\"1274\">wilder<\/em>\u00a0experience just around the corner. If you\u2019re not careful, you\u2019ll be so busy chasing the\u00a0<em data-start=\"1363\" data-end=\"1369\">next<\/em>\u00a0best thing that you forget to enjoy what\u2019s right in front of you. So, slow down, take a breath, and remember: there will always be another party.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8fb5100 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8fb5100\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Apps Are Overrated\u2014Go to an Event!<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-77d2151 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"77d2151\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"margin-top: 0px;\">Online swinger apps sound great in theory\u2014until you realize they\u2019re 90% ghosting, small talk purgatory, and people who never actually meet. Here\u2019s the deal: if you\u2019re serious about getting started,\u00a0<strong data-start=\"1768\" data-end=\"1787\">GO TO AN EVENT.<\/strong>\u00a0In-person chemistry is everything, and you\u2019ll save yourself\u00a0<em data-start=\"1848\" data-end=\"1852\">so<\/em>\u00a0much time by skipping the endless DMs and just showing up where the action is.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e097f15 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e097f15\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59efa22 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"59efa22\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/swinging-rookie-mistakes-peeps-funny-meme.jpg\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-8158 lazyload\" alt=\"Swinging rookie mistakes peeps funny meme\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/swinging-rookie-mistakes-peeps-funny-meme.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/swinging-rookie-mistakes-peeps-funny-meme-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/swinging-rookie-mistakes-peeps-funny-meme-768x576.jpg 768w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1024px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1024\/768;\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e6678e4 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e6678e4\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f58aca5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f58aca5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Peer Pressure is a Thing\u2014Don\u2019t Fall for It<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1cc226a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1cc226a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Look, just because a couple\u00a0<em data-start=\"2018\" data-end=\"2026\">really<\/em>\u00a0wants you to play doesn\u2019t mean you have to say yes. Swinging should be fun, exciting, and completely on your terms. If something feels off,\u00a0<strong data-start=\"2167\" data-end=\"2185\">trust your gut<\/strong>\u00a0and politely decline. You\u2019re not here to please everyone\u2014you\u2019re here to enjoy yourself.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a80b6ee elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a80b6ee\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">If You Talk Too Much, You\u2019re Never Gonna Meet<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b2e36bb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b2e36bb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Some people treat swinger apps like a never-ending chat room- flirty messages, endless planning, but no real action. I call them the \u201cchronic texters.\u201d Here\u2019s the truth \u2013 the longer you talk, the less likely you\u2019ll ever meet. If there\u2019s chemistry, set an IRL meetup sooner rather than later\u2014because swinging happens\u00a0<em data-start=\"322\" data-end=\"336\">in real life<\/em>, not in your DMs.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-261cbcb elementor-position-left elementor-vertical-align-middle elementor-mobile-position-left elementor-view-default elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon-box\" data-id=\"261cbcb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"icon-box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<link rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/elementor\/css\/custom-widget-icon-box.min.css?ver=1766267327\">\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-wrapper\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/swinger-pet-peeves-and-how-to-avoid-them\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"elementor-icon elementor-animation-\" tabindex=\"-1\">\n\t\t\t\t<svg aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"e-font-icon-svg e-fas-comment-dots\" viewBox=\"0 0 512 512\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M256 32C114.6 32 0 125.1 0 240c0 49.6 21.4 95 57 130.7C44.5 421.1 2.7 466 2.2 466.5c-2.2 2.3-2.8 5.7-1.5 8.7S4.8 480 8 480c66.3 0 116-31.8 140.6-51.4 32.7 12.3 69 19.4 107.4 19.4 141.4 0 256-93.1 256-208S397.4 32 256 32zM128 272c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32zm128 0c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32zm128 0c-17.7 0-32-14.3-32-32s14.3-32 32-32 32 14.3 32 32-14.3 32-32 32z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-content\">\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-icon-box-title\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/swinger-pet-peeves-and-how-to-avoid-them\/\" target=\"_blank\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tPSST! Don't Miss!\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/h4>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-icon-box-description\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\tSwinger Pet Peeves\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f950d9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1f950d9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Rejection Happens\u2014Don\u2019t Take It Personally<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1e91c94 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1e91c94\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>In the vanilla world, rejection stings. In the swinger world, it\u2019s just part of the game. Chemistry isn\u2019t always mutual, and that\u2019s okay! Just smile, say \u201cno worries,\u201d and move on. The worst thing you can do is take it personally\u2014trust me, everyone gets turned down at some point. It\u2019s not that deep.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0917c58 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"0917c58\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Aftercare is Everything (Yes, Even for Play Partners)<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7de16c9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7de16c9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Swinging is fun, sexy, and thrilling\u2014but it can also stir up emotions. That\u2019s why aftercare matters, not just for your main partner but for play partners too. Whether it\u2019s cuddling, a check-in text, or a full-on puppy pile (yes, that\u2019s a thing), make sure everyone feels good afterward. Swinging is about connection, not just sex, so take the time to nurture those bonds.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9dcd5e2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"9dcd5e2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Radical Honesty is Your New Best Friend<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-76f7a58 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"76f7a58\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>If you can\u2019t talk openly with your partner about your wants, limits, and feelings, you\u2019re not ready for the lifestyle. Period. Swinging requires next-level communication \u2013 like, \u201ctell me exactly what you want, how you feel, and what\u2019s on your mind\u201d kind of communication. The more honest you are, the better your experiences will be.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1974e18 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1974e18\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Mistakes Will Happen\u2014Don\u2019t Hold a Grudge<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e54fa94 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e54fa94\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Spoiler alert: you will screw up at some point. Maybe you misread a situation, maybe jealousy sneaks up on you, maybe you accidentally cross a boundary. The key is to talk about it, learn from it, and move forward. Holding onto resentment is the fastest way to ruin your fun\u2014so don\u2019t do it.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3c98ff0 highlight-text e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"3c98ff0\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7539feb elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"7539feb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 23-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-column .elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--spacer-size)}.e-con{--container-widget-width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer{width:var(--container-widget-width,var(--spacer-size));--align-self:var(--container-widget-align-self,initial);--flex-shrink:0}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container{height:100%;width:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer{height:100%}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer>.elementor-widget-container>.elementor-spacer>.elementor-spacer-inner{height:var(--container-widget-height,var(--spacer-size))}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty{position:relative;min-height:22px;min-width:22px}.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty .elementor-widget-empty-icon,.e-con>.elementor-widget-spacer.elementor-widget-empty .elementor-widget-empty-icon{position:absolute;top:0;bottom:0;left:0;right:0;margin:auto;padding:0;width:22px;height:22px}<\/style>\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c3b6ccc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c3b6ccc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated <strong>swingers podcast<\/strong> for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cb8a5ca e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"cb8a5ca\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b59a73f elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b59a73f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/swinging-rookie-mistakes-wish-i-knew-then-what-i-know-now\/id1734698162?i=1000697815772\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"249\" height=\"60\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/Untitled-6.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-5921 lazyload\" alt=\"\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 249px; 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autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-load-mode=\"1\"><\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2db087b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2db087b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h3 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Swinger Lingo (check <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/swinger-glossary-dictionary-lingo\/\">Swinger Dictionary<\/a> for more!)<\/h3>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a1f0051 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a1f0051\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-family: Poppins, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: bold;\">Compersion:<\/span><\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: #000000; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);\">The ultimate feel-good vibe in the world of non-monogamy, where seeing your partner\u2019s pleasure brings a smile to your face and a flutter to your heart.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c67cfae elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c67cfae\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);\"><span style=\"font-family: Poppins, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: bold;\">No-kissing rule<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Poppins, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: bold;\">:<\/span><\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: #000000; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);\">The boundary that keeps lips locked and emotions in check, ensuring that swinging stays strictly physical and drama-free. A boundary established within some swinging dynamics or encounters, prohibiting kissing to maintain emotional detachment and minimize potential complications.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8a8857f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8a8857f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);\"><span style=\"font-family: Poppins, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: bold;\">Ghosting<\/span><\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Poppins, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-weight: bold;\">:<\/span><\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color: #000000; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);\">The disappearing act that leaves you wondering, \u201cWas it something I said?\u201d \u2013 because in the swinging scene, communication is key!\u00a0 This term describes the sudden cessation of communication or contact with a romantic or sexual partner without explanation or warning.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dafc0bc elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"dafc0bc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2d0d873 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2d0d873\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div style=\"flex: 0 1 auto; order: 0; align-self: auto; flex-flow: row; place-content: normal; align-items: normal; gap: normal; --swiper-theme-color: #000; --swiper-navigation-size: 44px; --swiper-pagination-bullet-size: 6px; --swiper-pagination-bullet-horizontal-gap: 6px; --widgets-spacing: 20px 20px; line-height: 32px; max-width: 100%;\" data-id=\"a1f0051\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\"><div style=\"transition: background 0.3s, border 0.3s, border-radius 0.3s, box-shadow 0.3s, transform 0.4s; height: 97px; margin: 0px;\"><p><span style=\"font-family: Poppins, sans-serif;\"><b>\u25c0\ufe0f <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/twist-sf-review-san-franciscos-sultry-swinger-club\/\">Previous Episode<\/a>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vanillaswingers.com\/what-is-the-swingermoon-kissntell-our-honeymoon-of-swinging\/\">Next Episode<\/a> \u25b6\ufe0f<\/b><\/span><\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-44ab450 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"44ab450\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Swinging Rookie Mistakes: Wish I Knew Then What I Know Now New Swinger Podcast | Apple | Spotify Swinging isn\u2019t all champagne and orgies \u2013 mistakes\u00a0will\u00a0happen! 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